Building a healthy relationship

Couples Therapy

Building Healthy Relationships

Is your relationship in trouble? 

Do you find that you are arguing all the time?

Do you feel resentment towards your partner? 

Does your relationship lack connection and intimacy

and feel more like flat-mates rather than lovers?

Has your partner cheated on your either sexually or emotionally

and broken your trust?   

I support couples in working through the range of issues arising in relationships including infidelity, trust issues, difficulty with communication and conflict, life transitions, parenting and blended families and also in making big choices about relationships and working through separations where necessary.

 I recognize that while helping couples to manage conflict and communication well is crucial, having good communications skills is not enough to make a strong relationship and we also need to understand and connect with one another in meaningful ways and create strong, resilient family units.

Biggest Predictor of Divorce

According to Dr John Gottman after watching thousands of couples argue in his lab, he was able to identify specific negative communication patterns that predict divorce. He called them The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and they are criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.

The first step in effectively managing conflict is to identify and counteract The Four Horsemen when they arrive in your conflict discussions. Luckily, for every horseman there is an antidote, and you can learn how and when to use them.

fighting couple
happy couples

Open, honest, and safe communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship.

The first step to building a relationship is making sure you both understand each other’s needs and expectations—being on the same page is especially important. Gaining a deeper understanding of yourself empowers you to bring your true most authentic self-expression to your relationships and to gain connection from that place. Instead of sacrificing your truth, squashing your inner voice, or succumbing to other people’s values.

Healthy relationships enhance your life with your partner, family members and friends and makes everyone feel good about themselves. They do not just happen though; healthy relationships take time to build and need work to keep them healthy. The more positive effort you put into a relationship, the healthier it should be. Healthy relationships can increase your sense of worth and belonging, support you and give you confidence.

It is normal to have ups and down and difference of opinions in relationships. However, not all relationships are healthy you may feel like your trapped, not being heard or support. this can leave you feeling anxious, stressed, unhappy scared and drain.

 

How do you know your relationship is not healthy? One way to know is if one person has more power than another, or if that person is abusive or violent. 

Since 2005, I’ve helped my clients break through the obstacles that seem to be holding them back in life. Life's too short to be unhappy, unsure, or unfulfilled. I am here to help my clients achieve a more positive outlook on life, and provide them with all the tools necessary to get them there. Let me help you learn and develop better ways to handle the issues that are standing in the way of having better relationships.

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Professional Mental Health Counsellor 
and
 Relationship Specialist